On Indian marriages
In case you’re wondering, FISAM = Friend Initiated Self Arranged Match, MAM = Mommy Arranged Match vs. arranged marriage. Tazzy highlights the goings-on of a South Asian MAM, complete with real-life accounts, names changed for Aunty protection.
One thing we, people of South-Asian origin, are known for in the world, aside from curry, is our marriage custom. A non-desi person might not be able to name one spice in curry powder but you can bet he/she knows about ‘Arranged Marriage’ phenomenon.
Having gone through this in the past few months, Sukhi and I are a testament to the FISAM method. Although, if you ask my mother, she believes that we’re actually a MAM couple…. I disagree. 
Signs you’ve been spotted…
Chapter 1: The Mark
How to respond to persistent matchmakers. Desi girls, take notes.
Chapter 2: The Call
August 8th, 2005 at 9:47 am
Um, are you engaged or something? Maybe we should catch up.
August 8th, 2005 at 10:04 am
are you cheating on me, dammit Paul how can you do this to me?
August 8th, 2005 at 1:15 pm
Ginger,
Pauls status is “in a serious relationship” right now. That is the american version. In Indian terms, he’s “going to get married to this girl, so he’s practically engaged”. I’m expecting children in 4.
Hi Sukhi :).
Wonder if I’ll be invited to the wedding, as I would be setting a bad example for all the other younger kids (having an america wife, and not rejecting MAM, or FISAM).
Though, I do make good money, and I could surely give career advice to all the kids graduating from middle school, who desperately need to know what they’re doing.
Sorry.. spent the weekend talking with a kid who needed career advice according his mother and aunt, but not according to him.
August 8th, 2005 at 11:07 pm
I think I need some advice Vid…I didn’t know you offer those services…does it work for no middle school students?
August 9th, 2005 at 6:11 am
I am proud Mother, I don’t care what you say. I love both of you..
August 9th, 2005 at 12:17 pm
awww what a nice Aunti (Paulies mom)…
August 9th, 2005 at 1:26 pm
Paul’s Mom is in fact the bomb. I need some daal and roti.. hint hint wink wink. (Not winking at Aunty :)).
August 9th, 2005 at 1:30 pm
Oh, Bobby.. for career advice … I can be harsh at times tho.. but it’s for your own good.
I will charge you $100/hr, for that I will tell you how much you suck, and how so and so is making 10x more than you, for an additional $10, I will also give you some thappars.